I believe I have transitioned to a place where asking why feels completely irrelevant to my life.
I’m a naturally curious person who likes to engage in life. Asking why has been a key way that I explored and connected with life. Ironically though, asking why slowed me down and took me away from my purpose.
Instead of putting my attention on creating what I want in this moment, asking why keeps my attention on the past.
Why is a question for my brain, not my heart. In contrast, my heart is simply ok with what is and is ready to create in this moment.
Instead of investing any energy and attention into why I’m feeling a certain way, I welcome what ever emerges. For example, the other day I was agitated. I talk to myself in these moments and said, “Oh, agitation, you are welcome here. All of you. I am working on this article now. Let me know what you want me to know.” I think at some point I got up and stretched. A couple of times I let myself breathe in and out deeply, but otherwise I kept working. My attention was completely on my project. My creativity and insights were completely focused in the present moment. I felt better, completed my work quicker and my product was better than if I had spent my precious energy trying to sort out why I was agitated.
Instead of asking why, I now make these three statements to any feeling that emerges in me.
- You are welcome here.
- This is what I’m creating now.
- Tell me what you want me to know.
These statements work with what ever feelings emerge related to love, family, change, money….you name it!
I’ve also given up asking why things are the way that they are. I don’t ask why things are changing. I see that many things in my life are changing quickly. I simply ask myself, “What do you want to create in this area today?”
Finally, another fabulous outcome from why-free living is that I don’t feel a tug to fix other people’s feelings or make them go away. For example, I don’t any time asking why my brother interacts with my mom the way that he does. I simply see his behavior. Not asking why also gives me a better glimpse at his heart.
Talk about freedom!!
Try this why-free life and let me know what you notice.
{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }
This is great Judy!!
I’ve always that asking “why did this happen?” was the most useless question because it’s trying to fix the past, which is over. Turning to now and looking to the future and saying, “Well, I don’t like this, what would I rather have?” is a much more powerful question.
Thanks!
What a great reminder, Judy! Love your attention to being in the moment and letting Universe take care of life for us! Many thanks!
Ahhhh, I love being the in the vibrant present with the three of you! Ann and Frank, thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Let’s see what we each create through this refreshed point of view.
Love to you both,
jk
Dear Judy,
I felt an immediate uplifting of in my soul as Melissa and I read your words. I released something that had been tethering me unconsciously. Frank has been a guiding light for us and he’s now guided us to you. Dee-light-full we are! All the best, Dennis
Thanks Dennis, I’m glad you found an immediate uplift from this post. I know w/out a shadow of a doubt that you and Melissa shared your uplift with others…..and so it goes, yes? I’m glad Frank connected us. Be well!
{ 4 trackbacks }